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21 Habits to help you be
Truly Happy with your children

They say that in 21 days you can set any habit, change any way or become a new person. Here are 21 things that you can do for 21 days that will totally change your family relationships. You have started a home business so you have more time with your family. In addition to having more time at home now, try these things and you will see that it will help improve your relationship with your children and help you to further achieve your goal to become truly happy.

 

(This ideas are paraphrased from remarks given by Robert D. Hales. You can read the original talk at: http://www.lds.org/conference/talk/display/0,5232,23-1-19-14,FF.html )

1. Make our homes a safe place where each family member feels love and a sense of belonging. Realize that each child has varying gifts and abilities; each is an individual requiring special love and care.

2. Remember, "a soft answer turneth away wrath" (Prov. 15:1). When you raise your voice in anger, the Spirit departs from your home. We must never, out of anger, lock the door of our home or our heart to our children. Like the prodigal son, our children need to know that when they come to themselves they can turn to us for love and counsel.

3. Spend individual time with our children, letting them choose the activity and the subject of conversation. Block out distractions.

4. Encourage our children's private religious behavior. Measure their spiritual growth by observing their demeanor, language, and conduct toward others.

5. Pray daily with our children.

6. We can fill our homes with the sound of worthy music

7. Spend one night each week together as a family. Call it your Family Home Evening. Do it every week now matter what. As parents, we are sometimes too intimidated to teach our children. Our children need to have us share feelings with them and to teach them.

8. Hold family councils to discuss family plans and concerns. Some of the most effective family councils are one on one with each family member. Help our children know their ideas are important. Listen to them and learn from them.

9. Eat together when possible, and have meaningful mealtime discussions. It has been shown in many studies that families that eat together stay together.

10. Work together as a family, even if it may be faster and easier to do the job ourselves. Talk with our sons and daughters as we work together.

11. Help our children learn how to build good friendships and make their friends feel welcome in our homes. Get to know the parents of the friends of our children.

12. Teach our children by example how to budget time and resources. Help them learn self-reliance and the importance of preparing for the future.

13. Teach our children the history of our ancestors and of our own family history.

14. Build family traditions. Plan and carry out meaningful vacations together, considering our children's needs, talents, and abilities. Help them create happy memories, improve their talents, and build their feelings of self-worth.

15. By word and example, teach moral values and a commitment to obeying the commandments of God.

16. Resources are available outside the home. Wise use of them will strengthen our families.

  1. Encourage our children to serve others.

18. Talk to our children's teachers, coaches, counselors, advisers, and Church leaders about our concerns and the needs of our children.

19. Know what our children are doing in their spare time. Influence their choice of movies, television programs, and videos. If they are on the Internet, know what they are doing. Help them see the importance of wholesome entertainment.

20. Encourage worthwhile school activities. Know what our children are studying. Help them with their homework. Help them realize the importance of education and of preparing for employment and self-sufficiency.

21. Act with faith; don't react with fear. This is the time for added love and support and to reinforce your teachings on how to make choices. It is frightening to allow our children to learn from the mistakes they may make, but their willingness to choose family values is greater when the choice comes

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