Copyright 2000 by Cordell Vail
PEOPLE DON'T KNOW HOW TO DREAM:
One of the main focus points of my life is helping other people set and achieve goals. It pains me when I see someone struggling and not able to be all that they were meant to be. Goal setting works! It just simply works. Yet we know that only about 3% of the people in the world set goals. WHY? I have studied that phenomena a lot. I think I know at least part of the answer. It is because some people do not have the ability to dream.
LIFE'S WHIRL POOL OF INDICISION:
Many people are just living day to day. They do not believe that they can have anything better. They do not have a plan to find anything better. But more than that, THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO WANT. That is one reason they do not set goals. They don't know what to want. Does that sound silly? They would set goals, but they just don't know what they want to do or be. They are caught in what I call "the whirl pool of indecision". Does this sound familiar to you? If it does I can show you how to break out of the whirl pool of indecision and get going in a set direction for improving your circumstances. I can help you break out of this "round and round we go" life style. I can help you do that by helping you LEARN HOW TO DREAM. Want to know how?
SUCCESS WORKSHOPS NOT SEMINARS:
Well actually it is quite simple as far as what to do. Actually doing it, on the other hand, is not so easy. In fact it is not something you can do in one day. You may have noticed by now that I do not call the presentations that I give "SEMINARS". I call them "Success Workshops". Why workshops rather than seminars? Because when you come to a Success Workshop you can not just sit and listen like you do in a seminar. You have to work. What we are about to do to help you break out of the whirl pool of indecision is one of the principles from our Success Workshop sessions. We are going to ask you to do some work.
DECIDE THAT YOU WILL DO IT:
Here is what I want you do first. Decide that you are willing to do this. Yes! That is what I said. The first thing that is critical in succeeding in this Work Shop Task is to decide that you are willing to do it. If you are not then there is no reason to go on reading.
GET AT LEAST EIGHT PIECES OF PAPER AND A PENCIL:
Second I would like you to get at least eight pieces of paper (you will actually use more before you are done). It is best that you have these pieces of paper in some kind of little notebook that you can carry around with you all the time. It needs to be small enough that you can put it in your brief case or purse and carry it with you every where you go for the next week or so.
If you are serious about doing this then do that now. I will wait while you get the paper....
OK... I trust that you stopped and went and found a notebook of some kind. You really can not go on doing this with out it.
Now what we are going to do is help you LEARN HOW TO DREAM.....
TITLE EACH PIECE OF PAPER:
I want you to list on the top of the first piece of paper these words:
[page 1] SKILLS - TALENTS - THINGS I CAN DO
Now number under those words all the way to the bottom of the page.
On the second page write at the top these words:
[page 2] SKILLS - TALENTS - THINGS I WANT TO LEARN TO DO
Again under those words number the lines all the way to the bottom of the page.
Now on each of the following pieces of paper do the same thing but with these titles numbering the page all the way down on each page:
[page 3] SPECIALIZED KNOWLEDGE - THINGS I KNOW
[page 4] SPECIALIZED KNOWLEDGE - THINGS I WANT TO KNOW
[page 5] PEOPLE I KNOW - PEOPLE I HAVE KNOWN
[page 6] PEOPLE I WANT TO KNOW
[page 7] THE THINGS I USED TO LOVE TO DO AS A CHILD
[page 8] THINGS I WOULD DO IF MONEY WERE NO OBJECT
WHY ARE WE DOING THIS?
I told you this was a simple task that would not be easy to do didn't I? One of the reasons we have a hard time setting goals is self worth. Many of us have a low self worth or low self esteem. We do not think we have anything of value inside us. We do not realize the power of our potential. These lists are going to totally shock you. When you are done you will just be amazed at yourself. You will be totally thrilled at who you are and what you know. These lists will help you see a vision into the future that you have never seen before. IT WILL HELP YOU LEARN HOW TO DREAM.
SELF BRAIN STORMING:
So lets get to work. I would like you to start by just take some time now and start thinking. Take the first list and just start writing. I want you to start with this first page and list every skill and talent that you have. At first it will be hard. You may only think of one or two. Don't get discouraged and quit. Just sit and think about it. Maybe it will take a couple of hours. I promise you that just like in a group brain storming session as you start thinking and thinking and thinking and remembering things from your past, that those thoughts will stimulate other thoughts. It is best to work on these lists one at a time. I may warn you however that once you have done more than one, you mind will keep flashing back to things on the other lists that you have forgotten. The lists will grow as you work on them.
EXAMPLES OF SOME SKILLS AND TALENTS:
Something that will help you is to think of things that others have told you that you are good at. Think of things that you have been complemented on after doing them. That will start your thinking process. Just to help you get started, let me give you some examples of things that you might put on your list (I am just making these up to give you an example and start you thinking):
1. Able to talk to others easily
2. Very skilled at driving a car
3. Can find my way around in any strange city
4. I am very patient with animals and can teach them
5. Able to give talks before groups with little preparation
6. I can program computers
7. I am an excellent husband and father (or wife and mother)
8. When I write things, people normally complement me.
9. Nurturing skills
10. Organizational skills
(Now start on your own list. Don't be bashful. Be totally honest)
This may take you several hours to do. It will likely take you several weeks before you are totally done with this list. If you can not think of very many things, go ask someone you love and trust like your mother. Let them help you fill in this list. After you have stopped writing on this list, you will be somewhere like in the shower and you will think of something else. That is why I want you to keep the list close at hand so when you think of something else you can add it to the list.
THINGS YOU WANT TO BE OR DO
If you remember from one of our earlier newsletter articles, we said that 60% of your goals should be "TO BECOME" goals and not "TO HAVE" goals. Can you see where we are going with these lists now? The second page will be a list of talents you want to have. Skills you always wished you had. Can I give you some more examples just to get you thinking:
1. Play the piano
2. Sing in church
3. Learn to program a web page
4. Learn how to be a peace maker at work
5. Play an under par game of golf
6. Be organized
This is a serious list of things that are floating around in your mind. They are always there. They are things you keep saying, "I WISH I COULD......". Now I am asking you to write them down.
Your third page is different from the skills and talents page. Specialized knowledge is something that you have learned. Things you know about rather than have a skill to do it. They are things that you can say you know more about than the average person. Things that you know the best way to do something better than some one else. These are things you "KNOW A LOT ABOUT" rather than "BEING GOOD AT DOING".. Go back in time clear to your childhood. Again here are some examples:
1. Knowledge of how to fix cars (verses being good at fixing them)
2. College degree in accounting
3. Knowledge of Stock market trading
4. Knowledge of your ancestral heritage on your family tree
5. Business knowledge of sales techniques
6. Know the history of photography
(I know your list will be much longer than this)
THINGS YOU WANT TO KNOW:
I think you are get the point now with the second page to each of these lists. You make a list of the things that you want rather than the things you have.
PEOPLE YOU KNOW AND WANT TO KNOW:
Why would I ask you to make a list of the people you know? Well, you will only know that after you start making the list. You will be surprised who you know, but more importantly, as you start making this list, you will start thinking "NETWORKING". That is right. Networking. That is one of the most important principles of success. As you start to see your talents, skills and specialized knowledge you will begin to learn how to dream. I know you will. You can not help but do it. And as you do, this list of people you know and have known will start to flower in your mind and the three lists will come together like a great work of art. Then you will start to understand the power of Master Mind Groups.
List every person you know. Start with your mother and father if they are still living just to get started. List every person in your family. List every person you have ever worked with EVER!!!!! List every person that you have met as a neighbors where you used to live. Make this list pages and pages long. This list of people will become invaluable to you. Don't neglect it. List every living person you now know and every living person you can ever remember knowing. Grade school teachers, friends, relatives, work associates, list them all.
WHO YOU WANT TO KNOW:
This list will become the list of mentors that we have talked about so much in the past. List the people here that you would like to know. Don't be afraid to list anyone. Even outrageous people like the Queen Of England. If you have ever wanted to meet her in person then list her. Do you dare to dream a little? List every person you have ever wished you could meet and get to know. Yes it is OK to list Bill Gates. Can you see now how this list in particular is starting to push your "DREAM BUTTON" in you mind. It is starting to work. I can tell. So keep going.
THE THINGS I USED TO LOVE TO DO AS A CHILD:
Of all the lists you have made so far, this is the most important. Many studies have been done on children at play and adults at work and the relationship. The things that you used to love to do as a child should have become your occupation. Sadly that is not the case for many of us. This is a very critical list. Start with as young as you can remember and list everything that you remember as a child that you used to love to do. Did you know that is why the Boy Scouts have merit badges? It is to help the boys try a great variety of things to help them learn what they like to do in life. As you make this list, your "DREAM MACHINE" will start to come into full play. You will find great joy in making this list. When you are done, this list will give you more power to dream than anything you have ever done in your life. As you review it, it will bring feelings of joy into your soul more than you have ever imagined possible.
MONEY IS NO OBJECT:
Now for the ignition of the rocket booster in learning how to dream. This list will launch you off into a wonderful new world of joy and happiness that you only hoped could be possible in the past. If you will be totally serious and make this list as directed it will create a miracle in you. Write down the very things that you would actually do if you just won a 50 million dollar lottery. Be serious yet outrageous. It will ignite your dream machine. List anything you want. Things that you would actually do if you had all the money in the world. This it the beginning of your learning how to dream. Write those things down you almost don't dare say out loud. Close your eyes and VISUALIZE yourself doing them as you write. Have fun with this list. Remember this is just a dream, right?
MY MILLION DOLLAR PROMISE:
I now promise you as your friend and fellow student of life, that if you will do this exercise of making these lists faithfully, that when you get to this last list, anything that you write on that list can and will come to be IF YOU ARE WILLING TO DREAM. You can be anything you want to be if you want to be, but you have to be willing to dream. You have to be willing to hope. You have to be willing to wish. You have to desire to be different. If you will learn to dream, things will come to be. Start with the first list. Then work your way to the last list. If you will write these eight lists down as I have asked you to write them down on the paper and then read them and work on them, they will create the power within you to change. Believe in finding your dream and your dreams will come true. I promise you from my own personal experience from having done it myself and from my experience in helping may other people to do it as well.
If you would like help writing your goals, you can contact me at cordellv[at]yahoo[dot]com
(You of course will have to put my email address into your email program in the format firstname.lastname@example.org not this xxx[at]xxx[dot]com format. Listing it this way here keeps the Computer Junk Mail Robots from finding my email address and adding me to their mailing lists)
The only limit to your achievement lies with in your own mind
SO NOW LETS MAKE IT HAPPEN.... Dare to dream!!!!!
Your outrageous goal setting friend
Cordell Vail, W.B.